Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with problems, cause despair, and other problems. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, money, age difference, spiritual background, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married date.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking an affair. I am conserned mainly though it is just the human state, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people are able to switch the wish on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos culture has erected against affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your family or anyone else? You will need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, huge really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to think about. Your money are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his spouse for a large humber of reasons. As a man I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us men of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown distantly, our ordinary interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.